It’s a stereotype, the Asian-American parents who push their children to excel in school, I’ve experienced it to some degree but I rebelled against my parents wishes, (they wanted me to go to Law School), instead I ran away to California straight after college.
The pressure of not feeling good enough is strong in many Asian-American children. Getting a B is not good enough, getting straight A’s is. I’ve heard that the pressure is even worse for Koreans in South Korea, kids even commit suicide over admissions rejections because their entire future depends on going to prestigious schools. The guilt and burden of disappointing parents that sacrificed for their children’s well-being is huge. I live with a lot of guilt, of not being the person that my long-suffering immigrant parents intended me to be. Much of my self-imposed self-criticism comes from this root cause.
Do I think affirmative action is a good policy? I think it needs to be adjusted. The cause of inequity is still not being addressed and certain minorities, Asians are shouldering the burden of policies that raise a token few up, push the majority of others down and keep the white dominant culture as the status quo.
Merit should be the predominant deciding factor regardless of the color of your skin, the shape of your eyes, your gender, or your age. Asian students’ SAT scores should not have to be 200 points higher than black, hispanic or marginalized ethnic groups that receive credit for their societal disadvantage. Asians are not allowed in to white privileged culture, they’re discriminated against on both sides of the battlefield. I’m sick of being silent about this issue.